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Your employee is often late for work and leaves early. His work is at the origin and the other employees in the department always seem to take over for her. Jill is polite and friendly and while she is at work, seems to concentrate. She rarely socializes with someone at work, preferring to keep to herself. How would you handle this situation? You have another employee, Mary, who is hardworking. She often brings work home and works through her breaks. Her husband recently left her when she is juggling her work and her children. This means that it often lacks the meetings late, leaving early. And if things do not go smoothly in the morning, she arrives late. Sometimes you see her sad and empty his office. His co-workers are often picked up the baton from his workplace. How do you handle this situation? What thoughts and feelings did you About Jill? About Mary? And if I told you that they are one and the same person? How does that change your perspective? “Remember that when you come to a person with a strong emotion, they generally respond in accordance with the emotion and not with the result you want.” In

most situations we react from our point of view and do not have all the information. We make assumptions about people based on our experience, our reality. What is difficult to understand, that is that two people never have the same experiences throughout their lives and that our point of view is not necessarily good. How can you slow down and see things from the point sight of other people, namely your employees • You are using an ability called “Outcome Thinking” that allows you to respond in alignment with the result you want rather than simply react to the situation. < p> First, start by realizing that there are many good answers to a given situation. This will allow you to step back, to validate your response, and then try to find out what other answers are available. Second, try to think in positive terms of this view of the other person might be. Remember that your first contact with them should be an open process that brings together information from more than Explosion review. Jill Take for example, using reflection of the results by seeing things from his point of view. You might think such thoughts, “Perhaps it is not aware of anyone more work is done. “” Maybe things are going in his personal life that makes it hard on her. ” “She wants to do a good job and be part of the team.” “Maybe she is looking for ways to be more effective.” You see that, after the positive thinking, your anger or frustration with the other person will decrease. So when you approach Jill, you approach him in terms of “Jill, I noticed that a lot of work seems to move to the other. I know you are very conscientous and wanted ideas on how of the region get back on track. “This will allow Jill to open up to you and talk about the situation, without being defensive. Remember that when you come to a person with a strong emotion, they generally respond in accordance with the emotion and not with the result you want. For example, if you came to Jill angry about the delay, believing it is inconsiderate and does not perform the extra work she puts the whole world, then Jill would probably respond to your anger and turn into anger. It might then think: “You have no idea what it means to have your husband leaves you and try to raise your kids on your own.” Yet it can never say that. Instead She could just resentment and avoid you. Third, you need to think about how you talk to yourself. Keep in mind that how you speak is how you talk to others. Consider critical voices that you use. If you are rigorous and critical of yourself? Do you often take you down, even if in jest? Have you moved when you make a mistake or do you look at how you draw? When someone criticizes you, you do not take it personally or do you step back and assess whether what they should say? < p> If you notice that your critical voice tends to be negative, then work to change it. When you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, immediately stop such “cancel”, then rephrase the statement to be more positive. Practice say positive statements to yourself on a daily basis. You may feel silly doing, but you will start seeing positive results! When considering the use of results, “remember not to consider the following: What is the perspective of another person? Just think in terms positifs.Qu that is what my voice criticism and how do I phrase things more positively? What can I say This person will allow you to open and help me achieve the result I want? If you have any problems phrasing things positively, try role playing with another person. Let them play the lawyer hell with you.

Remember that your view is not necessarily good. Our differences in our experiences are what allows us to stretch and change. Be open to what the other has to say and focus more on the result you want to try to make sure they know your feelings. In business, it’s your IQ is often your job, but the you communicate with others that you promoted.